A Mother's Reckoning - Sue Klebold & Andrew Solomon

A Mother's Reckoning

By Sue Klebold & Andrew Solomon

  • Release Date: 2016-02-15
  • Genre: Biographies & Memoirs
Score: 4.5
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Description

The acclaimed New York Times bestseller by Sue Klebold, mother of one of the Columbine shooters, about living in the aftermath of Columbine.

On April 20, 1999, Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold walked into Columbine High School in Littleton, Colorado. Over the course of minutes, they would kill twelve students and a teacher and wound twenty-four others before taking their own lives.
 
For the last sixteen years, Sue Klebold, Dylan’s mother, has lived with the indescribable grief and shame of that day. How could her child, the promising young man she had loved and raised, be responsible for such horror? And how, as his mother, had she not known something was wrong? Were there subtle signs she had missed? What, if anything, could she have done differently?
 
These are questions that Klebold has grappled with every day since the Columbine tragedy. In A Mother’s Reckoning, she chronicles with unflinching honesty her journey as a mother trying to come to terms with the incomprehensible. In the hope that the insights and understanding she has gained may help other families recognize when a child is in distress, she tells her story in full, drawing upon her personal journals, the videos and writings that Dylan left behind, and on countless interviews with mental health experts.
 
Filled with hard-won wisdom and compassion, A Mother’s Reckoning is a powerful and haunting book that sheds light on one of the most pressing issues of our time. And with fresh wounds from the Newtown and Charleston shootings, never has the need for understanding been more urgent.
 
All author profits from the book will be donated to research and to charitable organizations focusing on mental health issues.

— Washington Post, Best Memoirs of 2016

Reviews

  • A Mother's Reckoning

    5
    By Tula456
    A heartbreaking story of love and loss written with courage. Helped me understand and appreciate the suffering some of our children go through and how they can hide it all. Susan makes no excuses for her son's role in the shooting but writes with the angst and confusion that she felt through her process of discovery and eventual forgiveness. I have read this book twice and both times the rawness of Susan's writing and her ability to describe what she has been through has hit me hard. I hope she finds some peace.
  • Sad

    5
    By El Best ever
    I couldn’t stop reading this book,a heart felt written book.
  • Sue

    5
    By thais coelho lopes
    I finish this book in less than a week! I don’t why but I got conecte by the fact that i used to and still struggle with suicide tough but this book help me understand how this affect the people around me and that we do need help and I feel it was my mother words, that’s the reason at 32 i told her was is going with me!! Is a sad story for Sue to talk about it but I fell is was a love letter to Dylan so he can see in a different way how he was love by his family! Im not negligent what he did! But this is a mother history and mothers doesn’t know everything something we don’t want to share things with your mothers because they do so much for us that we don’t want to get them more worried! Anyways i hope she have find some peace in her heart!
  • Amazibg

    5
    By abbygay45
    Finished this is in a day, was amazing
  • Not terribly Insightful, well written or interesting.

    2
    By CBibliophile
    I had hoped for some enlightening perspective or knowledgeable advice on tragedy, mental illness, suicide. Unfortunately Sue Kelbold’s book is anything but. She is no more a psychology expert than she is even able to understand her own grief. The book is thinly veiled and extremely self indulgent attempt at rescuing her son’s and her own reputation. Although she claims to be searching for the answers, she is really only searching for the answers that may exonerate her son’s memory and her own identity as being a “good mother”. The window in to her own flowery memories of her son’s life do however make one thing clear, She didn’t make a practice of holding her son accountable for his actions even after his murders and downplayed his explosive tempers and previous criminal activity as “normal teenage boy behavior”. And her thoughts on the murders he committed range from him being strong armed or duped into it and we not really being able to know if/ who he hurt or killed to viewing them as an unfortunate consequence of Dylan’s suicide. Overall, she should have kept her writings as simply her own means of self therapy as they do not begin to offer the hope and understanding to others she loftily claims was her motivation for writing it.
  • Excellent!

    5
    By ((_\_))((_/_))
    Great book! I give credit to Sue Klebold for writing this! She turned her sorrow and energy towards a worthy cause! Anybody saying she is covering up, defending, making excuses... Has never been a teenager, a parent, or known someone who has struggled. I know this is a book review, not a forum, so I will leave my opinion there. But this is an excellent read, very informative. Thank you!!!
  • A Mother’s Reckoning

    5
    By KoleRoll
    Just ten short months ago my thirty five year old sister committed suicide, leaving behind a fourteen year old daughter. It has destroyed our family and has left a lot of pain, anger and confusion in its wake. I actually googled Suicide Prevention over the holidays because I too have been finding myself thinking thoughts I had not thought before. I feel as though I was led to Sue’s book by some unseen hand. Tonight I feel peace. I haven’t felt this much peace in over ten months. I hope that you will pass along to Sue my deep admiration for her. I feel a deep love and respect for her amazing ability to face what every mother fears- that of not feeling like you were good enough when your child makes a choice contrary to the way you raised them. I work at an alternative high school and I will be buying a copy for each administrator in our building. This book is a gold mine of information. I’m sorry she had to endure this heartache in order to bless the lives of others- but tonight I am grateful for that knowledge.
  • Thank you Sue

    5
    By BC2787
    I had a hard time putting this book down. As a parent, I feel that becoming aware and actively acknowledging the issues our children face in today’s society is terrifying but necessary. Reading Sue’s extremely vivid recollections of the Columbine tragedy were eye opening and my heart honestly broke for her in every chapter. This book was well written, educational, full of facts, studies and resources that are more important now than ever. I respect her for opening her life to a public that has judged her based on actions that were not her own. I would love to meet her and give her a hug. Thank you Sue for this beautifully heartbreaking, thought provoking read. You are so brave. Thank you for giving us an insight on Dylan that we have not gotten to see before.
  • Sue Klebold Narcissist

    1
    By dropkiick
    I was excited about reading this book. What waste of time & money. After reading this book, I felt duped and angry. Sue Klebold is not a mental health doctor or expert on mental illness and suicide. There are no doctors or experts who endorse or back her claims. This was a boom written by toxic narcissist Sue Klebold, about toxic narcissistic Sue Klebold ...under the guise of mental illness & suicide. Sue goes in to portray herself & her son as victims when they clearly weren’t. She is a perfect example of a toxic narcissistic mother who destroyed her son Dylan as well as her other son Byron. She is in complete denial and she lives in a constant fantasy world....typical of toxic narcissist who refuses to accept any responsibility. She blames everyone & everything but herself & contradicts herself many times. She knows nothing about mental illness or suicide. Kids don’t just wake up one day & decide to go kill a bunch of innocent people. Dylan hated everyone. Dylan carried around so much hatred in his heart since childhood. He even hated his own mother. I three the book in the garbage after I read it. Good riddance!
  • Keep an open mind

    5
    By Giraffelant
    Susan's story made my heart ache. I am a citizen of Jefferson County, Colorado, was a high school student at the time, and had been at Columbine the previous week for a school related event. When I heard of this memoir, it gave me great anxiety. How could I read the testimony of the "negligent" mother of one of the two boys that stopped the world on April 20, 1999? I decided to keep an open heart and open mind and hear her story. I cried. I empathized. With her, and through her remembrance of him, with Dylan. My daughter has recently been bullied to the point of severe fear in her school (also Jefferson County), and it came to light and my attention as I was reading this book. She too had held this secret for over a year out of shame and embarrassment and fear. Because of Susan's courageous act of coming forward and sharing her story, I was better prepared to talk to my daughter about the bullying. Susan gave me the right words and wisdom to encourage and uplift my child but also the knowledge to challenge her school about procedures in place to handle the situation. The 15 lives lost that day at Columbine stopped my world, but Susan empowered me to be the difference - if only for my child and those around me who endlessly heard my accolades of her writing.